Nigerian Lives: 5 Men Talk About Women Who Overstay Their Welcome 

In the complex dance of modern dating and relationships, knowing when to leave can be just as important as knowing when to stay. From awkward morning-after scenarios to extended visits that test patience, these accounts highlight the delicate balance between hospitality and personal boundaries. Culture Custodian spoke to 5 men about their honest and sometimes humorous experiences with women who overstayed their welcome.

Ayo

There was a babe I was talking to, I didn’t know her yet. So, she asked to see me at my place and I agreed. She came with two bags and I was confused at first, I didn’t ask her any questions. We were talking about something when she mentioned that she told her mom and sister she would not go home till the weekend. I had to tell her I had things I needed to do and my friend was coming over. I just think it’s weird if you don’t communicate how long you’re gonna stay at someone’s place instead of assuming. There should be a concise plan. 

Joey

She came and spent the whole day and refused to leave. She made sure she ate and ate and even made the whole thing boring. Keep it short and keep it moving, no ooo. She wanted to mark territory. I left the room for her and went to my guy’s place. 

Ade

One of my female friends from school recently came for CDS on a day when CDS was canceled. And since my house is close to the LG, she asked if she could come. This was around 9 am. I ordered some food for her and she started watching Netflix. It was chill. Then around 12, I started dropping hints that it was a busy day and I needed to work, but she still acted like she couldn’t hear me. She was playing Supacell loud on the TV while I was meant to have meetings. I had to be kinda rude before she left, and now we still aren’t talking because of that day.

Sam

There was this girl that liked me, back when I had a roommate in school. One day, she came over saying that she wanted to say hi. So she did and came with food. She stayed for a few hours and then left to see her mom. Suddenly, I heard a knock on my door and it was her again. I was surprised. She kept talking till about 9 pm, and my roommate was there with me. I brought it up subtly about her leaving and she informed me that she’s staying over. The next morning too, she made no effort to go home. Around 3 pm, I made a plan with my friends to tell her that we all wanted to go out so we needed to lock the door. And this girl said we should give her the key. I did and I was so confused, it felt like a marriage I wasn’t part of. I got back home and still met her there. This girl didn’t leave my house until someone called her telling her that she had tests in school. The relationship didn’t last after that, because I was quite irritated.

Emmanuel

I liked her but things got weird when she refused to go home that day. I had asked her to come over for some Netflix and chill, and she was down. I bought food and other stuff we may need for the night. I didn’t even mind her staying the next morning, like I said, I liked her. But suddenly, the weekend was over and I was left with her on a Monday morning. I didn’t know how to ask her to leave, I just assumed that she would know that she was supposed to go home, but she didn’t. Tuesday, and Wednesday, same thing. I had had it up to my neck by Thursday, so I just told her that I needed to do some things alone. She was upset and she left. Blocked me after.