My first time was last year. I’d just come back from Lagos and was seeing this Nigerian girl. We hadn’t seen each other in almost a month, so after some summer away game I was happy to finally be able to give someone I liked.
Although I was a virgin and she wasn’t, neither of us intended on having sex. It was supposed to be much later. We’d been together for about a year and she was kinda horny so we planned to both leave school for the weekend. We met up for dinner and right after we went back to my empty house. Well, I had a couple of friends over but “empty” being no adults.
We spoke for a couple of minutes but it was obvious there was an elephant in the room so we made an excuse to go to the bedroom. While we were at it, it got intense mad quick. Like what Drake meant when he said 0-100 real quick. I feel like it was all because she hadn’t given in a while. We were in the middle of it when she hit me with the magic question. ‘Do you want to have sex?’
It was all in the heat of the moment and I didn’t even process when I said yes. I was 18 you know, had a girlfriend and didn’t see any real reason to remain a virgin. Well, apart from the fact that in this very moment, I did not have a condom and she wasn’t on any form of protection either. Heat of the moment kicked in and we were just like ‘fuck it’. Literally. And then she helped me put it in seeing as I had no clue what to do. The whole thing felt crazy. It was such a different feeling from any kind of fornication I ever engaged in.
We did it in like 6 positions and I lasted a while (I’m really proud of that) and then I pulled out cos I’m not about to have no kids at 18. I was still paranoid for 4 weeks about pregnancy but hey I’m still not a dad and we had sex on many other occasions before we broke up. All in all I think my first time was very average.
It was fun and it’s something I had to do to comprehend what sex truly is. Any advice? Your first time should be with someone you love.