Sex Diaries VOL 7: A 24-Year-Old Bisexual Shares Her Sexual Awakening Journey

Every week, Culture Custodian talks to Nigerians who share personal details about their lives. This time, we have Pamela, a 24-year-old bisexual girl narrates her experience with the same sex:

Lesbian advances during secondary school days

I got asked out by a girl for the first time in secondary school. We met at a neighborhood party and exchanged numbers. She was some years older than me. We started chatting then she told me she would love to come to spend the holidays at my house. I told my mum about it. She didn’t mind as long as the girl was decent and she could speak to her parents. Spending the holidays with her was fun as I was the only girl in my house until I started noticing some strange things about her. She asked me if I had a boyfriend. I replied, yes and she went on to preach that I could get pregnant. She told me being a lesbian was a better option and I asked her if she was one but she said she wasn’t. I picked up her phone one day and saw many lesbian porn videos, that was when I knew my assumptions were solid. However, she later came out clean by writing a letter telling me that she had feelings for me and would really love to kiss me and do crazy things with me. I was still young and innocent then, I hadn’t even kissed the guy I was dating, not to talk of exploring other options so I blatantly turned down her offer. We quickly drifted apart as it became pretty awkward hanging out with her.

Having lesbian friends in my University days

Lesbian advances returned when I got into the university. While I was gisting with a close friend one day, he told me he had heard rumors that I was a lesbian. It was pretty shocking to me since I still hadn’t been with a girl. That was when I found out that all my friends including my roommate were bi-sexual. One of them had never been with a guy. I found it pretty cool. I really didn’t mind so I allowed them to do their thing. I excused them whenever they wanted to have threesomes. I got a few sexual advances from my roommate but I wasn’t ready to indulge. I had a boyfriend I was madly in love with at the time so I guess dicks did it for me.

Becoming Bi-curious

All of a sudden, out of nowhere I started having sexual fantasies about girls after I finished school. I don’t know if it was the fact that I had gotten heartbroken and I now knew ‘men were scum’  but the bi-curiosity came like a big wave. I stopped watching sex videos with the opposite sex and lesbian porn became a major thing for me. I would also fantasize about hot girls when they would pass me and how satisfying it would be to touch their boobs. The bi-curiosity lingered on for a long time until one of my bi-sexual friends advised me to try sex with a girl. According to her: “Sex with a girl is surreal. The girl understands your body parts because she’s a female like you. Unlike a guy who is probably doing guesswork. I always encourage people women to try it so they can understand what they really want.” Well, that was exactly the ginger I needed.

Time to test my sexuality

I knew this girl who was a nymphomaniac and had been giving me some bi-sexual vibes so I thought she was the right fit. Plus I really loved hanging out with her. If I was going to have sex with a girl for the first time, then it had to be someone I really liked. Here is how it went. I was really high one day so I texted her that I had been having sexual fantasies about her and would love to have sex with her. She replied that she felt the same way. She even told me she thought of me whenever she was masturbating.

I told her I was going to book a hotel when I got back from NYSC camp so we could have sex. I told my male friend about it and he said I could come to do it in his house instead of wasting money. I was fine with it. The hang-out turned into an orgy with other guys and girls in the room. Everything was going pretty well till this babe decided to have sex with the guy I disliked the most in the room in front of everybody, It was a total turn-off for me. No way I was going to go down that pussy. When I asked her about it the next morning she said she was high and really regretted the action.

I tried again with one of my female friends who had been giving me the green light and sending me sexual messages and this time it was successful. We went from gisting casually to kissing. The kisses were so smooth, I could almost feel her soul in me. I didn’t have to tell her where to go when she was giving me head as you have to do with most guys. It was like she understood every single part of my body. We also did the tribbing thing I had seen in many lesbian porn videos and before I knew it, I was squirting all over. If you ask me, I will still have sex with a girl over and over again. To date, it’s still the best feeling I have ever had.

This article is based on real-life events. Names used are mere pseudonyms to protect the identities of the individuals mentioned in the article.

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